The emails she kept
Kev Quirk wrote about finding old emails from 2006, from when he and his wife first met and he was about to deploy to Afghanistan. He wanted the ground to open up. The spelling was bad. The grammar was worse. There, they're, their: no idea.
What stayed with me is the part he skips past. She kept them. Twenty years, and the thing he was ashamed of is the thing she saved.
Nobody keeps a message for its commas. They keep it because of who wrote it and when, and because for a stretch it was the only thread between two people.
I write a letter every Saturday. I check the dates and the names, I cut it to fit, I sweat the first line. All of that matters. But the reason someone keeps a letter is never the polish. It's that you showed up and said the true thing in your own words, badly or not.
Kev says he learned late and the emails were worth the embarrassment. He's right. Learning late is still learning. The version of you that couldn't spell is the one who sent the message. That isn't a flaw to hide. That's the receipt.
In response to: https://kevquirk.com/its-never-too-late-to-learn
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