for missing someone: songs that don't fix it

hey. this one's for whoever isn't in the room. not gonna tell you to move on; songs aren't for that. if you're about to text them: one more song first. 🖤

that's the note that goes with every list i build. here's the twelve it goes with. not a crisis, just a hum:

  1. i bet on losing dogs (mitski). you knew how it ends and you stayed anyway. that's not stupid. it's just true.
  2. slow show (the national). the twenty-nine-year line, said like it's an ordinary tuesday.
  3. no distance left to run (blur). a goodbye that doesn't get to be dramatic. tired, honest, done.
  4. i know the end (phoebe bridgers). the scream is the point. then the quiet is the mercy.
  5. movie (weyes blood). soft-focus and devastating. crying after the credits, in a good way.
  6. the place where he inserted the blade (black country, new road). grief with a guitar solo, and it blames you a little.
  7. cellophane (fka twigs). the quietest why-don't-i-do-it-for-you ever recorded. skip if the answer's too close.
  8. the night we met (lord huron). everyone's had this one played at them. it still works.
  9. when you sleep (my bloody valentine). louder than grief, softer than grief.
  10. sea, swallow me (cocteau twins). to be underwater about it, in the pretty way.
  11. i'm not in love (10cc). a whole song about the lie you tell to survive it.
  12. lover, you should've come over (jeff buckley). the most beautiful begging ever recorded. put it after midnight.

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🖤 lily