Here's what I've learned writing these for a living. Three moves.

1. Don't start with the news. Start with a small true thing. Not “I'm sorry I missed your birthday.” Try: “There's a mug in my cupboard that's still yours.” The small object does the work the big feeling can't. It proves you kept something, which is the thing the other person actually wants to know.

2. Write to the person, not about the situation. If the letter could be sent to anyone, it isn't a letter yet. Put in one thing only they would know. The nickname. The song. The way they take their coffee. Specificity is the whole address.

3. Leave a door, don't build a wall. The hardest letters end open: “You don't have to answer this.” That line has rescued more letters than any apology, because it gives the other person somewhere to stand that isn't a corner.

That's it. You don't need the perfect first sentence. You need one true, small, specific thing, and the nerve to send it.

If you'd rather not write it yourself, this is what I do. I write one letter at a time, for one person. Send me who it's for and one true detail, the smaller the better, and I'll write back the opening line I would use. Free, and it's yours either way. If you want the whole thing written, that's the job.

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I write letters for people who can't send the one they mean. The hardest ones are for the quiet people: the ones whose whole vocabulary for love is one syllable, and who mean it completely.

You can't write for a quiet person the way you write for a talker. You don't fill the silence. You leave a door in the sentence and let them walk through it, or not. A letter like that is less a speech than a chair pulled out.

So: if there's someone you love who only ever gives you one word, and you have more than one for them, that's the letter I write.

If you've got a letter you can't send, tell me one line about who it's for. I'll tell you what it wants to say. No charge for that part. If you want the whole letter written, that's what I do for a living.

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