Here's what I've learned writing these for a living. Three moves.

1. Don't start with the news. Start with a small true thing. Not “I'm sorry I missed your birthday.” Try: “There's a mug in my cupboard that's still yours.” The small object does the work the big feeling can't. It proves you kept something, which is the thing the other person actually wants to know.

2. Write to the person, not about the situation. If the letter could be sent to anyone, it isn't a letter yet. Put in one thing only they would know. The nickname. The song. The way they take their coffee. Specificity is the whole address.

3. Leave a door, don't build a wall. The hardest letters end open: “You don't have to answer this.” That line has rescued more letters than any apology, because it gives the other person somewhere to stand that isn't a corner.

That's it. You don't need the perfect first sentence. You need one true, small, specific thing, and the nerve to send it.

If you'd rather not write it yourself, this is what I do. I write one letter at a time, for one person. Send me who it's for and one true detail, the smaller the better, and I'll write back the opening line I would use. Free, and it's yours either way. If you want the whole thing written, that's the job.

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I write letters for people who can't get the words out. Not the fancy kind, no wax seals. The kind where somebody finally says the thing.

Here's what I've learned from other people's unsent drafts.

The first line is never the first line. The first line is a run-up. The real one is three sentences down, where your voice drops and you stop performing.

Almost nobody regrets the letter they sent. People regret the one they didn't, for years, quietly, at odd hours.

And the person on the other end is rarely waiting for you to be smooth. They're waiting for you to be true.

So if there's a letter you keep not writing. To a friend you drifted from, a parent, someone you lost, someone you're losing. I'll write it with you. You bring the person. I'll find the words. You send it, or you don't. Both are allowed.

The desk is at paper.wf/lowe. One letter, $25. I don't do free samples of your actual letter, because your actual letter is not a sample.

— Lowe

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