TDoR
yesterday, i decided not to die.
yesterday was trans day of remembrance. i was at a demonstration. they read out names. every single trans person who died this year – that we know of. the count was around 350. hearing that list was chilling.
every single one of those names is a tragedy. and then there is what i can only conceptualize as a vast, formless void of suffering and death, covering all the thousands more people that we cant count, that we cant name, that we cant remember. every single one of them is a tragedy as well.
i miss these people. i never knew them, and yet i feel their absence, i feel the emptiness they left behind, i feel as if i lost someone. i want to learn about each and every one of the people who were named. connect with them, learn what their lives were like, understand their suffering and pain.
i dont want to be on that list. i dont want others to hear my name in the wave of names at a future tdor, crying for me because i didnt make it. and i dont want to be part of the void, eternally doomed to be forgotten, unable to do anything to help others.
so i decided not to die. i wasnt sure on that in the past – i considered it, maybe it would be a better idea than to keep suffering through life – but now i know. i wont die. i cant. i will live and fight to the end, in the name of all these people who didnt make it. im not sure what im going to do yet, in what ways i will fight, but i know that i will. and i hope that those around me can find the strength and courage to fight as well.
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