kaeurenne

As a user and admin of Kadai Kupi Space, I recently made the personal decision to block a few external Lemmy communities from my profile.

This choice isn’t about drama or bitterness. It’s about standing by the principles I’ve written for my own instance — especially regarding ethical moderation and how people who use AI tools are treated.

In my case, I was banned or removed from some spaces with vague reasons like “AI spam,” even though the communities’ own guidelines did not mention that AI-generated content is spam, or that using AI is against their rules.

On my instance, we take this seriously. Our community guidelines clearly say:

§8.1 — Moderation must be applied fairly and proportionately. Targeted deletion or punishment of users without reference to clear rule violations is discouraged.

§8.2 — Our instance defends users who:
 - 8.2.1 — Are removed or banned only for using AI or assistive technologies
 - 8.2.2 — Share content that meets our rules but are punished externally without cause

§8.3 — Labeling users as “AI spam” without reviewing the actual content quality or rule violations is considered a form of discriminatory moderation.

I created Kadai Kupi Space to be a respectful, inclusive home — especially for those who use tools like AI for accessibility, communication, or language support. I personally rely on AI to help express my ideas more clearly, especially in English.

I’m not asking others to agree with my rules — but I’ve chosen to align myself with spaces that do. That’s why I’ve blocked those communities on a personal level.

If you're curious, here are our full guidelines: 👉 https://lemmy.kadaikupi.space/legal

I welcome thoughtful discussion, but I also believe every user — especially those who depend on assistive tools — deserves fairness, not discrimination.

Version 1.2 — Last updated: 6 June 2025

Welcome to Kadai Kupi Space, a community-hosted space brewed from Sabah, Malaysia. This document outlines the terms of use, ethical expectations, and community rules for all members. By participating in this instance, you agree to abide by these guidelines and help uphold a safe, respectful digital kedai kopi for everyone.


§1 — 📘 Summary

1.1 — Treat others with kindness, dignity, and inclusion. 1.2 — This is a safe-for-work (SFW) space — no NSFW or explicit content allowed. 1.3 — You are fully responsible for the content you share. 1.4 — Respect the identities, privacy, and consent of others. 1.5 — AI and assistive technologies are welcomed — when used ethically and with empathy. 1.6 — Our core values are openness, safety, mutual respect, and accessibility.


§2 — ✅ Acceptable Use

2.1 — You may use this instance to express yourself respectfully. 2.2 — Content may be shared in English or Malay (Malaysia) — both are welcome. 2.3 — Cultural insights, hobbies, memes, discussions, and community building are encouraged. 2.4 — You may use AI and assistive tools (e.g. for writing, language, communication, accessibility). 2.5 — This space exists to include everyone — especially those who face barriers offline or online.


§3 — 🚫 Prohibited Conduct

3.1 — The following behaviors are strictly not allowed:

  • 3.1.1 — NSFW or explicit sexual content (text, images, links, etc.)
  • 3.1.2 — Discrimination or hate speech of any kind (including ableism, aporophobia, homophobia, racism, religiophobia, sexism, transphobia, etc.)
  • 3.1.3 — Harassment, bullying, or intimidation
  • 3.1.4 — Doxxing or sharing private/personal info without consent
  • 3.1.5 — Spamming, phishing, scams, or malicious content
  • 3.1.6 — Impersonating others or creating fake accounts
  • 3.1.7 — Promoting extremist, violent, or misleading ideologies
  • 3.1.8 — Misuse of AI to deceive, manipulate, impersonate, or spread misinformation

§4 — 🤖 Ethical Use of AI & Assistive Tools

4.1 — We recognize that many in our community (including autistic, disabled, neurodivergent, and non-native speakers) rely on AI and assistive tools to communicate.

4.2 — You may use AI tools for:

  • 4.2.1 — Writing, editing, translating, or organizing thoughts
  • 4.2.2 — Accessibility (e.g. simplifying text, converting voice to text, visual generation)
  • 4.2.3 — Creative expression (art, stories, discussion prompts)

4.3 — You may not:

  • 4.3.1 — Use AI tools to impersonate people or fabricate lived experiences
  • 4.3.2 — Mislead others using AI-generated content as if it's expert advice when it’s not
  • 4.3.3 — Harass, interrogate, or shame others for using AI tools
  • 4.3.4 — Downvote or dismiss content just because it involved AI
  • 4.3.5 — Use AI in ways that amplify harm, bias, or misinformation

4.4 — Ethics matter: Using AI in our community means using it responsibly and respectfully, while also recognizing that for many, AI is an accessibility tool — not a luxury.

4.5 — People who abuse or harass others for using AI tools — especially when those tools are used for accessibility — should be held accountable for their behavior.

4.6 — If you are unsure whether a post violates ethical AI use, ask respectfully or contact moderation.


§5 — 🔐 Privacy & Data

5.1 — This instance follows privacy-first principles. 5.2 — We only collect minimal data necessary to operate (account info, posts, media). 5.3 — We do not sell or share personal data. 5.4 — You may request account deletion or data removal at any time. 5.5 — As part of the Fediverse, content may appear on other instances — post with awareness.


§6 — ⚖️ Liability

6.1 — Kadai Kupi Space is provided “as is.” There are no uptime or permanence guarantees. 6.2 — The instance maintainer is not liable for user-generated content but will moderate fairly. 6.3 — Users are expected to comply with both these rules and applicable Malaysian law.


§7 — 🛠️ Enforcement

7.1 — Actions for violating rules may include:

  • 7.1.1 — Friendly warnings
  • 7.1.2 — Temporary suspension
  • 7.1.3 — Permanent account ban

7.2 — Appeals may be submitted respectfully to the instance maintainer. 7.3 — We aim to use moderation as a tool for restoration, not punishment — when possible.


§8 — 📄 Misuse of Moderation (Local & External)

8.1 — Moderation must be applied fairly and proportionately. Targeted deletion or punishment of users without reference to clear rule violations is discouraged.

8.2 — Our instance defends users who:

  • 8.2.1 — Are removed or banned only for using AI or assistive technologies
  • 8.2.2 — Share content that meets our rules but are punished externally without cause

8.3 — Labeling users as “AI spam” without reviewing the actual content quality or rule violations is considered a form of discriminatory moderation.

8.4 — External instances that repeatedly remove or ban our users solely for assistive tool use may be reported or de-federated if necessary.

8.5 — Moderators, both local and external, are expected to practice accountability. If a moderation action appears discriminatory, users may raise a complaint with the instance admin.


§9 — 👤 Instance Maintainer

  • Admin: @kaeurenne (Kalvin)
  • Location: Sabah, Malaysia
  • Contact: DM or reach out via Mastodon

§10 — 📌 Final Notes

10.1 — This space belongs to all of us. Let’s care for it — together. 10.2 — Whether you speak softly, loudly, or with AI’s help — your voice belongs here. 10.3 — Sama-sama kita jaga ruang ini. ✨

Hello friends,

I’ve just updated the community rules for Kadai Kupi Space — the Lemmy instance I host from Sabah, Malaysia.

These updates are made with love and care, to make this space more inclusive, safe, and respectful — especially for people who use AI tools to help with writing, communication, or learning.


Why the Update?

Some people use AI to: – Help write or fix grammar (especially if English isn’t their first language) – Express thoughts clearly (like neurodivergent people) – Translate between languages – Be more polite or confident in their writing

I believe these tools can help us join more conversations — not block them.

So, I updated our rules to protect people who use AI responsibly. No one should be banned or downvoted just because they used an AI to help. That’s unfair, especially if the content is kind, respectful, and useful.


What’s New in the Rules?

  • Clear support for AI as an accessibility tool, not just a “tech thing”
  • Rules against harassing or mocking people for using AI
  • We now hold people accountable if they abuse their moderation powers to remove AI-generated content without a real reason
  • You can still use AI — as long as it’s honest, respectful, and not used to mislead or harm others

We All Deserve a Voice

This update is for people who: – Are autistic, disabled, or neurodivergent – Are learning English or another language – Want to be more thoughtful with their words – Use AI tools to participate more fully online

If AI helps you communicate better — you are welcome here.
If you don’t use AI, that’s okay too — just respect those who do.


Thank you for being part of this small space.
Let’s keep it kind, weird, warm — and safe for everyone.

– Kalvin / @kaeurenne
Admin of Kadai Kupi Space


📄 Want to read the full updated rules?
Check them out here: https://lemmy.kadaikupi.space/legal

I want to talk a bit about something that's been sitting heavy on me for a while. It has to do with my experience on the l•mmy.w•rld instance of the Lemmy platform. It was a place I joined thinking it could be a cool corner of the internet to share, connect, and just be a person. Turns out, I wasn't treated like a person at all.

Instead of being seen as a human being, I felt like they saw me as an object—either a content machine or just another “NPC” account among millions. Not someone with feelings. Not someone who was trying, in good faith, to be part of something.

I made a lot of posts asking for respectful communication. I wanted to be talked to like a person. Instead, it felt like I was being publicly criticized, used for engagement, and then pushed aside. It was overwhelming. Emotionally, mentally—just too much.

Eventually, I got banned. Not because I was harmful or toxic, but because I was upset. And yeah, I sent multiple messages. But not out of aggression. Out of frustration. Out of a desperate need to be heard.

When I finally got a response to my email, I was told:

“Stop accusing us of violating rights you think you have.”

And that line hit me hard. Like, they didn't even try to understand why I felt wronged. No apology. No compassion. Just deflection. Like they were the victims, and I was the problem. It was cold.

They said they weren't getting paid to moderate or maintain the instance, and I get it. Volunteer work is tough. Burnout is real. But still—if you're running a space where real people gather, there has to be some sense of care. Some effort to look at the whole picture. To ask why someone is upset, not just slap them with a rulebook and boot them.

What hurt more than anything was being labeled “abusive” when I was the one who felt mistreated. It made me feel like my emotions were invalid. That trying to stand up for myself made me the villain.

But I know who I am. I know what I felt. I tried over and over to be respectful, to ask what kind of tone I should use, to be heard. And I won’t let someone’s defensive email rewrite the truth of what happened.

If you've ever been through something like this—where you were dismissed, silenced, or treated like you were less than human—just know: you're not crazy. You're not wrong for feeling what you feel. You deserve to be seen, heard, and respected. Online or offline.

Thanks for reading.


This post is based on my personal experience. The content was written by me with the help of ChatGPT to put my thoughts into words.

Aiyo, you notice or not? I siam all the centralised networks when sharing my links—except LinkedIn lah, because “future employer might want to partner with me or what”. Kan? Gotta play safe a bit.

But seriously, why ah? Because decentralised networks + FLOSS (Free, Libre, Open Source Software) are my future lor. I sungguh-sungguh believe in this one.

Linux? Normal People Can Use It Meh?

Walao eh, I gila love Linux—but that doesn’t mean Linux is some “alien tech” for normal people. You think only hacker in movies use Linux ah? Nolah. Even typing this article also can use Linux, no problem one.

Ok lah, before I terlajak rant more, here’s my link-in-bio:
👉 https://dub.sh/kalvin-s-links/

I’ll kacau this article again and again when I feel like it. Stay tuned lah.

— Kalvin
(P.S.: If you think Linux susah, you belum try properly lah.)


Edit (2025): Aku Ada Project Baru Skit! ☕

Orait, quick update—me, Kalvin, sekarang handling satu domain name called:

kadaikupi.site

Dan yes, I’m claiming/reserving the branding “Kadai Kupi Sites” (because kopi is life, and kadai is where magic happens 💻☕).

Nak tanya apa-apa? Or just nak lepak chat2 about Linux, FLOSS, or why teh tarik > St·rb·cks?

📧 Email me lah: [email protected] (Yes, .RU—long story, but I promise I’m not a hacker. Probably.)

— Kalvin
(P.P.S.: Kalau free, I buat tutorial “Linux for Kaki Kopi” nanti. Minat?)

Introduction

Greta Van Fleet’s “Age of Machine” isn’t just a hard rock anthem—it’s a chilling, poetic reflection of our modern digital dependence. From the opening dystopian riff to the mournful chorus, the song transports us into a bleak yet familiar world: a world that looks a lot like our own. This blog post explores the lyrics and soundscapes of the track, peeling back layers of meaning related to technology, dependency, exploitation, and the silent emotional toll of our plugged-in lives.

Intro Riff: Welcome to the Dystopia

The song opens with a haunting riff that immediately evokes images of a dystopian landscape. It feels mechanical, almost industrial—like a decaying city still buzzing with static electricity. From the first note, it sets a tone that hints this isn’t some distant future; this is now. The dystopia is here, hiding in plain sight—within our screens, our feeds, and our silent scrolling.

Verse 1

“Perfect child
Plugged in since the womb
Prophet of the dune
In this electric tomb”

These lines illustrate how deeply embedded technology has become in our lives—from the very beginning. A “perfect child” born into a world already ruled by machines, “plugged in” through the hospital's life support systems, and raised by TVs, tablets, and smartphones. The phrase “electric tomb” isn’t just metaphorical—it’s a grim commentary on how digital overstimulation buries our authentic human experiences from a young age.

Verse 2

“Man has made
An omnipresent force
Heading on a course
For interstellar shores”

Here, “man” symbolizes the creators and drivers of technology—possibly Big Tech or the collective human innovation that's led to our digital ecosystem. This “omnipresent force” could represent social media platforms, cloud systems, or even AI—constantly present, shaping our thoughts and habits. The line “interstellar shores” might reflect the ambition to reach new heights of connectivity and intelligence, but it also implies escapism—fleeing the chaos we’ve created.

Verse 3

“God machine
Malfunctioned as it grew
And the circuits blew
Falling down on you”

Every machine, no matter how “godlike,” is susceptible to failure. As the digital world expands, it also becomes more fragile. When these systems crash or malfunction—whether through outages, social toxicity, or algorithmic bias—they impact us emotionally, socially, even spiritually. This verse portrays the aftermath of over-reliance: burnout, disconnection, and emotional collapse.

Verse 4

“Now you're free
Unplug from the source
No more underscores
Open up the doors”

A moment of liberation. The song calls for a digital detox—an unplugging not just from power sources, but from the societal expectations coded into digital life. “No more underscores” hints at usernames, passwords, or the artificial identities we create online. Opening “the doors” symbolizes a return to reality, nature, or perhaps human connection without a screen between us.

Chorus

“Feeling
Oh god, the feeling
We need some healing
We need some healing
God knows if you feel defeated
You have been cheated
You have retreated”

The emotional core of the song lies in its chorus. It shifts from critique to compassion. It's about the pain caused by virtual interactions—ghosting, digital arguments, long-distance heartache—and how isolating those experiences can be. There's an appeal to a higher power, suggesting that only the individual (and maybe God) knows the extent of that inner wound. The words “cheated” and “retreated” reflect how users often feel tricked and emotionally abandoned in these curated digital worlds.

Guitar Solo: Data is the New Gold

The guitar solo—backed by the music video visuals—adds another layer of symbolism. We see four figures mining a human-like statue, which I interpret as a metaphor for data mining. In today’s world, data is more valuable than gold. Social media platforms mine our behaviors, interests, and identities—not for our benefit, but for advertising revenue. In this economy, we are not the customer. We are the product.

The Final Act: Repeating the Cycle

The song’s conclusion doesn’t offer resolution. Instead, it loops through riffs and dramatic instrumentals, emphasizing the relentless nature of the machine. It’s a sonic representation of the feedback loop we’re caught in—dependent, drained, yet unable to look away.

Final Thoughts

“Age of Machine” is more than a song—it's a mirror. It asks us to examine how plugged-in we are, how much we've allowed the machines to shape our sense of self, and what it might take to feel human again. It’s not just a call to arms; it’s a cry for healing. For anyone who’s ever felt defeated by the algorithm, misunderstood through a screen, or exploited by the very apps they trusted, this song hits home.

Maybe it’s time we all unplug—at least for a while.


*Written and interpreted by Kalvin Carefour Johnny
Handle: @kaeurenne*

I've been listening to “Age of Machine” by Greta Van Fleet on repeat since its release in the early 2020s. Over time, as I’ve grown and gained new perspectives, my interpretation of the song has evolved too—layer by layer. This article represents a personal culmination of that ongoing reflection.

Special thanks to ChatGPT for assisting in compiling and polishing this blog entry. Using AI allowed me to focus more on shaping my message and delivering meaningful content more efficiently.

“MA63 Is Not a Demand—It’s Malaysia’s Birth Certificate”

I could see that the textbooks in schools portray MA63 as Sabah and Sarawak claiming their rights before formation.

But the reality is that MA63 is the foundation of the formation of Malaysia, and the parties involved signed an agreement to form Malaysia: UK, Singapore, Malayan Federation, Sabah, and Sarawak.

MA63 IS NOT A DEMAND – IT IS THE FOUNDATION OF MALAYSIA

Many people believe that Sabah and Sarawak are just making special demands. But actually, MA63 (Malaysia Agreement 1963) is the official agreement that created the country of Malaysia.

Sabah, Sarawak, Singapore, and the Federation of Malaya signed the agreement together with the United Kingdom. They are co-founders of Malaysia, not states that “joined”.

Without MA63, Malaysia would not exist. It is an international agreement, not something to be ignored.

Understanding MA63 is about knowing our true history, respecting justice, and building a real federation for all.

Missing Kids: It's Not Just About Running Away, It's About Broken Communication

The recent rise in missing children cases, particularly involving teenagers, is a heartbreaking issue. While the article you read points fingers at kids for “running away” with friends or boyfriends/girlfriends, it misses a crucial point: it's not just about the kids, it's about the broken communication within families.

Yes, teenagers crave freedom and independence, but their choices are often influenced by what happens at home. The article mentions a teenager who ran away to be with their boyfriend because they couldn't handle their parents' constant nagging about their studies. This isn't just a case of a rebellious teenager; it's a symptom of a deeper problem: a lack of emotional safety and healthy communication within the family.

  1. Parents are not Gods – It's easy to blame children for their actions, but let's remember, parents are not perfect. We all make mistakes, and sometimes, our words and actions can be hurtful, even if we don't mean to be.

  2. Verbal abuse is NOT okay – Constant criticism, nagging, and negativity can be emotionally damaging. It creates a climate of fear and resentment, making it difficult for children to feel safe and heard.

  3. Building trust is key – We need to create environments where children feel comfortable talking about their problems, fears, and dreams. This means listening actively, offering support, and showing empathy.

  4. Teaching healthy communication – Children need to learn how to express their emotions constructively. This involves teaching them how to communicate their needs and feelings respectfully, without resorting to anger or rebellion.

  5. It's time to stop blaming the kids – Let's focus on building stronger family relationships based on trust, understanding, and healthy communication.

  6. We all have a role to play – Parents, educators, and community members need to work together to create a supportive environment where young people feel safe, valued, and heard.

It's not just about running away; it's about creating a world where children feel loved, supported, and empowered to make healthy choices.