Fantasy is Bad
Yes, There was a day where I masturbated 6 times
I am not proud of it.
Fuck, let me be honest. I am still part proud of it.
I know it is not something to be proud of.
But I really dislike lying.
Five times a day at least 3 to 4 times.
Four times a day at least 10 to 20 times.
Three times a day at least 50 times.
Two times a day at least 250 times.
One time a day at least 1000 times.
Ah, I feel bad and sad.
I will continue writing another day
Yes, it is possible using imagination
There is no need for porn to masturbate.
Porn has a short history. It has not existed for millennia or something.
It would be amazing if you can just click a switch and stop watching porn (https://paper.wf/fantasyisbad/it-would-be-amazing-if-you-can-just-click-a-switch-and-never-watch-porn-again)
So, mere mortal like us need to have strategies, etc
Triggers are very important. Identifying your trigger Even peeing can be a trigger.
Happiness Boredom Sadness Guilt
Motivation feels amazing. It makes you feel on top of the world for some time. But it is also very easy to lose it the next day.
I can't say talk about everyone's willpower. But it is incredibly hard for me to use willpower for everything.
So don't just rely on motivation, willpower, etc. Use your environment for your benefit.
Make it easier for you to do what you want to do rather than what you don't want to do.
Change your environment to create as much friction as possible.
It is a small thing. But it can reduce a lot of relapses. It can also massively help you in your recovery.
You may have also trained your brain to associate bathroom and phone with porn.
You need to break this association too.
It is good to break all associations porn has with your life.
But not bringing it to bathroom is an easy one to see.
If you are trying to watch less porn, going pornfree, nofap, etc. Whatever you are doing, use a porn blocker. It helps you massively.
Porn blockers are amazing.
It is a thing that stops you.
It creates a layer of friction from the ubiquitous internet porn.
So many people defend things because it is their culture or someone else’s culture. I understand culture shapes our thoughts from birth. But still just because it is someone's or my culture doesn't mean I will accept it as a reason.
I hate all religion. I hate all culture and tradition too. Don't ask me why? It is just a default stance I have, only after learning more about it I like or dislike it. I maybe a cynic. I only like certain parts of certain culture, religion, tradition at the max even after that.
The browser feature that hoodwinks you
The incognito feature of every browser is sub optimal or quite useless.
The only thing they do is not store your history in the local copy of your browser.
In some browsers you can’t even be sure whether what you search in incognito is separated from you Google, Microsoft, etc accounts are not.
So, it gives a sense of false of privacy when you have the bare minimum of not having things in history. To further understand read the warning when you open incognito or private browsing.
It is certainly difficult to read books about pornography.
I would advise to not binge read them. I highly doubt it is possible for normal people.
Take Breaks.
Watch your favorite shows, comedies, etc.
Start a new book then.
Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines
Maybe try reading books for change if you do not usually read.
This is a general book recommendation. I don’t have any fiction to recommend.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck – Audio book was amazing
The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr
Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff